Love ..Sex..and dhokha....of Autobiographies of toxic relations...
A long time live in companion of a legendary Musician Bhupen Hazarika mam Kalpana Lajmis recent autobiography raising many eyebrows...If autobiography is all about a monolog verse and a catcy mug in bookstales i am not at all surprised by the the teary eyed confessions vis a vis...
I slapped him...
I got pregnant and did abortion...
He was selfish....( Then whov forced her to stay with him???)
I hate the people of the land he belongs...etc etc...A total hate story....
Reading biography is my another addiction consciously developed by my mentor Papa..
..Mein Kampf...Rasidi Ticket...My experiment with truth....list is endless...With growing time I have started forming few matured question about biographies...
Is autobiography all about...half truth??naked truth or just a tool to vent out frustration???
How much a partner.a husband..a a son..a relative can claim to know or understand or how deep one can delve in to ocean of another mind???
Flashes of a close hi tea meeting with Dr Bhupen Hazarikas wife 80plus late Priyamboda Hazarika in her last visit to Assam bring tears to my eyes....To answer my playful request...(mam why dont you plan an autobiography??) pat she replied gracefully..Pretty girl what to write about a lonely lady !!! Not an utterance of allegation ..counter allegation just a statement....
I have gifted my husband freedom coz i love him!!!A highly dignified lady whos serving Uganda and such top international services kept her agony of single motherhood at bay with her sharp wittiness and rich vocabulary.....I saw unconditional love for her man in her sharp eyes....
Reminds me of Mo Mathai known as Mac suddenly came out with...
Reminiscences of the Nehru in the alledged chapter.".She" about his unholy claim as Indira Gandhis discreet lover....Lines like...
Her cold and forbidding reputation was only a veil of self protection and she was exceptionally good in bed...
She loved prolonged kissing...
She got pregnant by the author and had an abortion...and at the end...
I had fallen deeply in love with her.....seriouly reflected Mathais dirty mind and vengefull outpooring...
The portions although has deleted i still feel pity for the iron lady for fall in for an utterly wrong man whov just disrobed her dignity and privacy in her absense....
Is this love??
No its just lust and dhoka...
And our dear Om puri..??Second wife ..Nandita Puri.in her biography."..Unlikely hero"divuldged his having sex with his maid at 14..has put the poor hubby in total discomfort....
All for sensationalisation!!!!
And I hated V.S.Naipaul...for his confession to Patrick French...whv written his biography...
How can a nobel ..and bookers awardee went on a shameless confession that...
"My cruality have killed my wife!!!
I visited prostitutes...
Kept a mistress for 24 years...
He told his biographer...
"I was deep in dreadful drive of writing in India and i illtreated my wife in hospital....
Few ugly truth need not see the open sky and touch of ink....
If telling truth is the need than do it right in the existence of the man or women you claim you love!!!!
Two autobiographical bestseller and another autobiographical book of 500pages of mine.....
I still think and believe...
"Your story must have some inspiring notes of positivity..your relations must adore a sparkle of respect for privacy and nonjudgement.....
Washing your dirty linen in public will only establish a toxic relation a firm footing.....
Anybody can stay more than decades with you..rubbing shoulders still know nuthing about you...
Nobody know and understand you better than yourself!!!!!
Where there is love there is the unconditional humane dependency.sex..lust...respect for privacy....
Misunderstandings...fights. reconcilation..kiss and tell stories are hot cakes in the bookselves nodoubt...
But...there are two sides of the same coin....
Noone is perfect!!!
This tall statement of....I know about him and her is totally falacious...
Ones act in bed wont reflect the whole persona....mind and activities has multiyered complexities....
This is dhoka lajmiji...Mathai sir... I consider your works as works
of unrest mind but if it calms the minds and penchant of testimony of rubbing shoulder of star partner you all are justified!!!!
After all aam readers will not stop pouring love to either the legendary singer or politician....
The bottom line is respect....
I am overwhlemed to read Ataljis lady loves one liner.....
My equation with Atlji needs no clearifiction as its above the level of unfetstandings of mere people!!!
There is no norms and rules of fallin in love but civility demands a bit of solid truth and solid privacy to let it remain eternal........
Love is ok...between two lovelorn soul...
Sex is also ok...when in love...
But Dhokha is not!!!!
I slapped him...
I got pregnant and did abortion...
He was selfish....( Then whov forced her to stay with him???)
I hate the people of the land he belongs...etc etc...A total hate story....
Reading biography is my another addiction consciously developed by my mentor Papa..
..Mein Kampf...Rasidi Ticket...My experiment with truth....list is endless...With growing time I have started forming few matured question about biographies...
Is autobiography all about...half truth??naked truth or just a tool to vent out frustration???
How much a partner.a husband..a a son..a relative can claim to know or understand or how deep one can delve in to ocean of another mind???
Flashes of a close hi tea meeting with Dr Bhupen Hazarikas wife 80plus late Priyamboda Hazarika in her last visit to Assam bring tears to my eyes....To answer my playful request...(mam why dont you plan an autobiography??) pat she replied gracefully..Pretty girl what to write about a lonely lady !!! Not an utterance of allegation ..counter allegation just a statement....
I have gifted my husband freedom coz i love him!!!A highly dignified lady whos serving Uganda and such top international services kept her agony of single motherhood at bay with her sharp wittiness and rich vocabulary.....I saw unconditional love for her man in her sharp eyes....
Reminds me of Mo Mathai known as Mac suddenly came out with...
Reminiscences of the Nehru in the alledged chapter.".She" about his unholy claim as Indira Gandhis discreet lover....Lines like...
Her cold and forbidding reputation was only a veil of self protection and she was exceptionally good in bed...
She loved prolonged kissing...
She got pregnant by the author and had an abortion...and at the end...
I had fallen deeply in love with her.....seriouly reflected Mathais dirty mind and vengefull outpooring...
The portions although has deleted i still feel pity for the iron lady for fall in for an utterly wrong man whov just disrobed her dignity and privacy in her absense....
Is this love??
No its just lust and dhoka...
And our dear Om puri..??Second wife ..Nandita Puri.in her biography."..Unlikely hero"divuldged his having sex with his maid at 14..has put the poor hubby in total discomfort....
All for sensationalisation!!!!
And I hated V.S.Naipaul...for his confession to Patrick French...whv written his biography...
How can a nobel ..and bookers awardee went on a shameless confession that...
"My cruality have killed my wife!!!
I visited prostitutes...
Kept a mistress for 24 years...
He told his biographer...
"I was deep in dreadful drive of writing in India and i illtreated my wife in hospital....
Few ugly truth need not see the open sky and touch of ink....
If telling truth is the need than do it right in the existence of the man or women you claim you love!!!!
Two autobiographical bestseller and another autobiographical book of 500pages of mine.....
I still think and believe...
"Your story must have some inspiring notes of positivity..your relations must adore a sparkle of respect for privacy and nonjudgement.....
Washing your dirty linen in public will only establish a toxic relation a firm footing.....
Anybody can stay more than decades with you..rubbing shoulders still know nuthing about you...
Nobody know and understand you better than yourself!!!!!
Where there is love there is the unconditional humane dependency.sex..lust...respect for privacy....
Misunderstandings...fights. reconcilation..kiss and tell stories are hot cakes in the bookselves nodoubt...
But...there are two sides of the same coin....
Noone is perfect!!!
This tall statement of....I know about him and her is totally falacious...
Ones act in bed wont reflect the whole persona....mind and activities has multiyered complexities....
This is dhoka lajmiji...Mathai sir... I consider your works as works
of unrest mind but if it calms the minds and penchant of testimony of rubbing shoulder of star partner you all are justified!!!!
After all aam readers will not stop pouring love to either the legendary singer or politician....
The bottom line is respect....
I am overwhlemed to read Ataljis lady loves one liner.....
My equation with Atlji needs no clearifiction as its above the level of unfetstandings of mere people!!!
There is no norms and rules of fallin in love but civility demands a bit of solid truth and solid privacy to let it remain eternal........
Love is ok...between two lovelorn soul...
Sex is also ok...when in love...
But Dhokha is not!!!!
This autobiography is simply a futile attempt to cash in the legends glory. Who would have been interseted in reading an autobiograpgy of an unattractive average woman of her stature had see not been his mistress or whatever? Had she respected the relation, she would not have waited to reveal about her failed motherhood.its a simple account of her service as a sexual partner and not a soukmate, thats what one may gather from the exverpts. Its all in a bad taste.
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