Is Raat Ki Subah Nehi...//Adultery/497

After Mahesh Bhatta sahabs "Artha" Is Raat Ki Subah Nehi was a kind of revolutionary film we few hardcore moviebuff  enjoyed and had a discussion over it.Then came movie like "The reader""August rush"..etc etc
.Being in the media here as agony aunt, request to speak my mind on the topic,invitation to local channels for talkshows pouring in.I choose writing my blog.I choose not to speak on it in few alloted minute.

Adultery is no childs play.Anything that relates human emotion is no childs play.,Judiciary can only throw guiding light to end few evils to help people to walk tall with changes but cnt remain as sole determinator on issues veiled by societal dogmas and beliefs..

Lets cut it short and throw light on this topic of adultery and a 158years old law that appears so outdated. Lets highlight the highlights...
1..Adultery without a shadow of doubt can be grounds for divorce.
2 The husband is not the master of the wife.
3.The wife cnt be treated as chattel.

When legislature and executive fail to protect rights of individual with changing time its judiciary to establish a healthy trend .I am absolutly happy that after Adhar.National anthem.Triple Talaq 377 verdict this new verdict will help eradicate gender disparity and putting healthy check on evil social beliefs and tradition.

Now raise your hands and please tell me how many of you have been to family court for yourself or to accompany someone or to assist someone to plead if you are a lawer..??(Family court dont allow lawers)A lawer can guide a client only.  You will eventually know how painful ,complex and time consuming the process and the word ..To prove..to place your point of view.,how tiresome and awkward for a wife or husband to engage in a tug of war,how difficult it is to prove that your man or your woman is cheating on you!! Its not a win win situation in the court of law for the third party to create a make believe situation too.I have seen the ugly ordeal from a breaths distance therfore i know how difficult our legal system are.

If anybody  at all religiously follows my blog or  post..take my words seriously they might remember i have mentioned that..Italy forsakes adultery as the prime reason of divorce a year back if it dnt amount to torture or negligence...

A large chunk of women in my home state Assam feel comfortable sharing their story because i dnt judge them they bare their heart and i listen..i listen to them patiently..i never break their trust and try offer helping hand if necessary.

If i say sexual disatisfaction and emotional vaccum have mostly been the reason for a woman to look out for anyone other than her man you may ridicule me but yes its happening over the decades.Even if a man is showing off his bisexuality or infiedelity its either his monotony or endless thrust for new which is his birthright.How can you deprive a man off his right over his own will??How can it effect the edifice of a society?? How can anybody play the role of morale policing???How can anybody stop that??? That forbidden penchant !!!

Marriage is one of the most mysterious institution on earth.Marriage dictates responsibility and liability but with zero accountability with vulnerability.The matter of heart and mind are beyond any explanation and jurisdiction and so is concept like..Live in..One night stand..homosexuality..hiterosexuality.swapping and even concept of love with robot ..supernatural.are no longer alien to cross section of people...A large amount of people are also becoming asexual..Few appriciate sex but dnt induldge..

Do you think any law can restrict ones behavioural pattern?? Any law can guarantee the happiness and longevity of a couple??In the virtual world  simplicity in relationship have fast been dilu
ted by complexity...There are strict IPC directed laws againest rape..murder..or such crime but could ever it stop the rampant crime???

Harmony,respect,care,freedom.responsibility.commitment..trust.., civility are the virtus comes from within. Nothing can force it upon anyone..l

I have read about  and seen  ..interacted with soulmates who have been doing fine witout any wedlock or social sanction...

I have seen samegender couple fighting for respect and leading a complete life with partners and adopted children



My eyes get tired of seeing happily married couple and witin coma factors of  truth reality..

I have seen trophy wives and husbands and jaw dropping stories of their duality.

I can engage you with hundred of stories of falsehood in the name of marriage..You often see them with colgate smile with"me and my happy family caption" with hashtag in all social medium..

I get tired of listning to numerous stories of my friends who are not at all happy in their family orbit but way timid to denounce it.

I hear stories of husbands who are fine using their wives for his professional ladder and mistresses  and flings for their enlightment.

I have heard stories of few who are in constant search for no commitment no risk no gain type of adventures.They look out for spare tyres in relationship orbit.

I know stories of  many urban households where man in the house are way diplomatic to lead a happy family life coupled with endless sexual adventures.They are good managers..They announce...every bloody relationship comes with a date of expiry..True isnt it??

Ten friends of mine  are getting divorce from their husbands of late coz they confide me they are tired of serving their menfolk.

Million of people stay single not by compulsion but by choice as they fell complete within..

I have also seen wonderful equation of pati.patni aur woh...too.

I have known couples who become true friends after they fall apart.

I have seen wonderful men whov accepted their womens folly with grace and  and even get their wives married of to her lover.

I have seen wonderful women whov silently accepted their men not because they are obliged but because they love.


With the simplest of words  and example i just tried to explain that marriages..love..relationships..housholds..family pattern are going through a kind of transformation and seachange..

Law here in my country from banning and abolish Sati..to child marriage.witch hunting to sanction widow marriage..to property law..decriminalising 377 ...and now adultrey ...are trying to establish an egalitarian society.Law cant be and wnt be the only tool of social changes....

The intensity...pattern..concern...responsibility. will..consistency...soulfull concern are the sole determinator and barometer of any kind of relationship..Forcing upon is a wrong concept.

Why do we want a relationship??
To show the society that you are happy or make yourself happy??
How often you ask yourself the question?

How often a wife/lover/partner keep the morale courage to answer why and how she need another man in her life or why dnt the husband/man/lover practice trnsperency before he switch on or off the prevailing mood.

Is not it all connected with a simple virtue called honesty and another added virtue called respect???

Is not respect is the only solution to all the tangle???

Have not we read stories of promiscuousness of partners and the secrecey leads to life threatning diseases like HIV and cost some innocent lives in a marriage...

So i utter about..".Complete freedom and absolute control..".If you have brutal honesty..transparency..and a stoic belief  in your relationship status then you will not waste your time discussing adultery or carry a douthful mind or an iota of insecurity..Your duty is to welcome any changes that stand against discrimination and glorify individual freedom of expression..

Marriage and love realtionships are just a medium of your expression ..You can term it as necessary evil too!!!!Sooner we realize it lesser will be our pain  fight and doubt about adultery!!!